Getting Started: If you are like most parents today, you are finding that getting your kids to work is just about the hardest thing you do during your day. More and more kids today are helping their parents less around the house and are playing more games than ever before. It is not like when you were a kid, where going outside is the only thing you had to do. Today's kids have millions of entertainment options; majority of them are indoors which can be good and bad.
If your child is getting close to 10 years of age or older, it is time for some choirs. One of the best things you can do for your children is getting them use to the concept of work. You may think what I am saying is crazy but it is true. Far too often today do teenagers complain about having to lift a finger. This clearly indicates a lack of dependence on their parents. There have been countless studies linking work management to school management.
The concept is simple but extremely important to how well your child manages his or her tasks. Start your son or daughter off simple.
10 Quick Examples:
3. Cleaning their room
4. Dusting the Windows
7. Washing the windows
8. Washing the Car
9. Organizing Books
The main concept of all these tasks is their hands on elements, this is crucial. These tasks require more effort than mingle tasks like watching television or playing video games. Start your child off slow maybe one or two tasks a day to build up their "endurance" till they can do everything in one day. This seems crazy but has remarkable results if you follow it.
The Don'ts: Don't give your child a list, this is the worst possible thing you could do when they are just starting out. This is because in the child's mind, they will begin to see this as a negative thing. You want it to come as a positive thing.
a. Here is why, your child has activity's he or she enjoys; a long list of items to them equals impossible or a delayed entertainment of either television or video games. (Negative)
2. Don't allow your child to slack off. This is another crucial task which is most likely more stressful for you than them.
a. Here is why, if you allow your child to slack off the first time or the next time, you are teaching them that this is acceptable work behavior, which is most definitely not.(Negative)
3. Don't allow them to do a poor quality job. There is countless research proving that the quality of work a child puts into something is determined by how much they can get away with.
a. Here is why, if you allow your child to just throw your dishes into the silverware drawer they will continue that habit throughout life so, when they are studying for their test they may just give up on organizing their notes. This seems far-fetched but it's true.
1. Encouragement, after your child does something. They will immediately turn to you for feedback. Be honest; if your child did a bad job, show them how to reach your approval. Just saying, "Wrong, do it again" is the worst thing you could possibly say. If your child meets your approval rating the first time, let them know right away. They need to see a physical response from you. If they don't, discouragement will set in which could later lead to a lack of self-confidence.
a. Here is why, why your child does something that you approve of; you ignore them, they will ignore you later on. Simple.(Positive)
2. Reward system, nothing could make your child happier than getting their favorite snack or piece of candy. This is a simple way to motivate. (Positive)
Caution: Do Not Abuse.Use this system as a starting up program; gradually work them off this system. If you do not, they will later be trained only to work when they are given their reward.
It's a Wrap:
In millions of studies, it has been show that the behavior your child picks up when they are young, carries on with them into their adult life so, setting suitable standards now will benefit them more than you could possible know in their life ahead.